How to overcome Sadness and Loneliness

     How to get out of intense sadness, loneliness and start everything again

Sadness is something which deeply affect one's mind and energy to live, sometimes it can lead to loneliness or other times loneliness of something done by someone, due to any incident or by your inner feeling can lead to sadness within you. Whatever the case is, one thing is sure they both are interconnected with each other and once if they both hit you at the same time, it broke you from inside and makes it difficult to get out of that deep sorrow

  

It is very hard and challenging experience to deal with but everything happens for a reason and with clear understanding we can get through it. Here are some basic steps you can perform in order to deal with it.

1). Take a walk all alone:

I know you came here to make yourself overcome loneliness, sadness and here we are telling you to take a walk all alone but trust us. Trust the process, this therapy is something which does wonders to calm your body down. Walking alone in the morning in the silent roads, just you, some small creations, birds, trees, silent winds and a long way to go. Just feel the nature, feel yourself, enjoy the moment and it's beauty. I know it doesn't sounds effective right now but have a trust, it does wonders to calm your body down and fill you up with positivity. Just go for 2 days straight and you can't stop yourself for going everyday. Try it out.

2). Throw a nice treat for yourself:

Tell me the last time you genuinely make an effort for yourself. Make an effort for yourself?? Does that even make any sense? Yes, it does. Being a genuine person you always care for others, always be there if someone needed. But what about you? Look at you now, you are all sad, lonely and you don't feel like telling this to anyone. Don't you think you deserve to be loved? But who shows all this love? The one who knows from which conditions you are going through. right? So who knows this in your case? You. right? So show that love to yourself. See it's not always necessary that others show you what you expect them to show. Common not everyone in this world is pure like you right? And trust us, self love is the best. It will never ditch you, you will never regret it. So get up! And make an effort for yourself, give a treat to yourself. If you like cooking, cook a dish for yourself with all your love in it. If you don't like cooking, get up, dress up and go out for a delicious meal today. You clearly deserve this.

3). Know the cause:

It's somehow important to know the cause of your intense sadness. It helps to heal in a right way. Give yourself time, think properly. The reason could be anything maybe you are going through a lot of hurdles in life, maybe you are having a hard time in dealing with someone, maybe you feel knocked out, maybe someone special to your heart just broke your trust, it can be anything. Just ask yourself, did you give your best you can in that situation to fix that out? Did you walk with honesty? And is your answer yes? Well what was written to happen, just happened. The only thing we could have done was giving our best which we already did.

4). Accept it, think this way and move on:

But you are right, life is not fair all the times, that's true. You know it's like a cricket game where the balls are the challenges/ next step. We need to do something, we need to put in some efforts to hit that ball. What cases can be made, either we hit it or we miss it. What will happen if we missed it? The next ball will come! What if we are not ready, we are still in the dilemma of the previous loss? We will miss this one as well, and guess what the upcoming ball is already waiting of you. And here the twist is that no one knows which ball will hit which area of our life and which ball is coming to do wonders in your life. You just have to stick on it and hit that ball hard.  You are not out of this game unless and until you keep on playing. You need to love this process, this is the only way to live it. So what if you miss a ball, there are thousands of ball waiting for you my dear, so get up and live it.

5). Know your worth:

Know your worth, remember how happy, talented, energetic, exciting, free from depression you lately used to be. Remind yourself you deserve to be like that but this time you don't need anyone's support/appreciation to be like that, be like that for yourself, treat yourself like a king. You have been hurting yourself from a long time now, it's enough of it. Now it's the time to pay it off, become lil selfish for yourself by your self.

6). Talk to the one you know will listen:

If you think you are all filled up and it's all started feeling so heavy then you can share your feeling to someone you think will listen to you. A good listener is always a good choice, it can be anyone your mom, your family member, among your friends or any stranger. Yes, a stranger could be anyone you find online and you think will listen to you(any mentoring website as well). You just need someone to tell. If you feel like crying it's okay to cry, it helps in releasing that feeling of suffocation, burden you are dealing with. You can also listen to the advice they gave to you after listening and you can also implement it if you think it might work for you but it's also not necessary for you to accept it. It's all up to you. But one thing you have to do is just speak your heart out and pull that heaviness out of you.

7). It's ok to take time, Re-live your hobbies:

Remember the time you used to be happy within yourself, full of happiness and motivation you were a chota dhamaka (small blaster) in itself. Remember those golden days and your golden qualities. Filter out the activities you were good at or the activities you used to love doing. Play that sport you loved to play, sing that music you loved to sing, dance, paint anything, it can be anything you used to love. Try to re-live them. You can also try new skills in this process, any new activity you find attractive, explore yourself. Google it, learn it and give your all for it.

8). Make a to-do list:

Try to make a to-do list, it's ok if you had stopped doing anything from months now. Start with the smaller steps, revise your schedule, re-arrange your activities. You don't have to take all burden all of a sudden, go slow, start with basics. Make it interesting, add some characters, add some challenges, include your hobbies and make it a clear way.

9). Include refreshment:

It's always an intelligent act to include breaks to train your mind. Watch any entertaining, inspiring video, post, series, anything. Just one to fresh up your mind and get up to gear everything again. Give your best everytime, when you feeling low, feels like you have done enough, back off. Relax, calm your body down, watch something to boost yourself and start again. 

10). Learn to be strong alone:

Be self reliable, focus on building yourself alone. It's okay if you feel sad at times, stand for yourself.  Talk with everyone, laugh with everyone, hangout, chill but never trust for support from them. Never think that someone will come to save you when you feel insecure, don't expect. The day you start walking alone by yourself, loving yourself and working all by yourself without expecting the need of anybody's support, affection and appreciation towards, you will be the happiest and most successful day of your life. Believe it or not but self reliability is the best and the person who developed this quality by holding up its happiness is the most powerful person indeed! 

11).  Appreciate yourself:

At last in this whole journey of process, don't forget to appreciate yourself. Appreciate yourself for putting in so much of efforts, appreciate yourself for struggling silently, appreciate yourself for pushing yourself everyday with so much of energy to do better and appreciate yourself for coping with all of this and still standing all alone climbing each step everyday. At times you gotta stop and appreciate yourself for how far you have came. We all are proud of you for doing so good in your life and we have fate in you that you will get it done and one day your future self will thank you for searching ways to get up again and for believing yourself and taking that one initial step. That one step makes all the difference. You got this. All the best.

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